I am not sure if i want to re-live
last night, but I would like to share what I have kind of figured out while I
was sleeping, mainly digesting what I have observed from my long chat with
missy daisy and mr. fish……
What did this Involve?
Woman (or the party who is more
inclined to the feminine side in a relationship)
Her emotional struggle
Her insecurities
Her trying to communicate it
With her beloved.
What Is The Issue At Hand?
This is a simple equation
That exists looong before time
Woman feels insecure
about something
Woman tells man about it
Man thinks that the something which
is making woman insecure is irrelevant
Hence brushes it aside (worse,
thinking that she is pms-ing and it is only a moment of irrationality, which
will pass within a few days….*honestly, this is the WORST kind of explanation a
man could possibly EVER come up with in his head, whether he communicates it
verbally or not!*)
Then the insecurity brews and grows
quietly but surely in her
Till finally
it erupts
All because of a small matter that
nags and takes advantage of her insecurities
What Could Have Been A Possible Solution?
If only
man could
attend and nip the issue at the butt
first by acknowledging that whatever
issue the woman is facing
is of importance, at least to her,
to her world, to her perspective.
THEN he should
out of the love and concern he has
for her
attend to the something / issue that
is bothering her immediate
no matter how insignificant the
issue might be in his book
before it snowballs into an
irrational brawl
Why?
because by then, when it reaches the irrational brawl, the woman will hate herself
for turning into this horrible nasty
slimy creature
then, she will get angry at the man
who would have this question mark in
his head “what have I done??”
then he would ask her “What do you
want me to do to make you happy?”
that sentence will escalate the
issue to a whole new level
because, she will feel that you have
just given her a tight slap in her face (well, it would actually feel
better if
it was an ACTUAL slap in this case, not that any woman would want it)
because this question, which is a
genuine question from the man’s part, will be translated to
“I give up, now just tell me quickly
what I need to do, I will do it, and then we just quickly get over this so that
I can go on to do the things I like than to deal with you this maddening woman”
OR
“Ok, whatever, I will do as she
tells me, I don’t really want to spend time THINKING about what she wants, just
give me the quick fixes…”
Yes, the man might rebuke that this
is not true, not what his intention is
But
This is exactly what is appearing to
her, what his question is IMPLYING to her
And then she will say the forever
mystical two words that puzzles man to no end
“Never mind….” Or “Forget it….”
What Happens Next?
Finally
Things seem to have calmed down and
water seems to have run under the bridge
But
The truth it
It is not
It is still brewing
And growing
Albeit quietly
But surely
In her heart
and the next time
when it erupts again
the man better be thoroughly
well-prepared to take the accummulated aftermaths
or……